We center Black Women and Femmes' liberation, wholeness, and wellness. I am the founder and CEO of The Free People Project and the USA Bestselling Author of “All The Black Girls Are Activists: A Fourth Wave Womanist Pursuit Of Dreams As Radical Resistance.” My Spiritual Mentorship Program, entitled “Dream Yourself Free,” is designed to support Black Women to heal intergenerational wounds and prioritize pleasure. I created Black Girl Mixtape, a platform and safe think space that elevates the intellectual authority of Black Women. I speak from a Hip Hop Womanist perspective. I earned my Bachelors in Cultural Anthropology and Political Science and a Masters of Arts in Social Change with a concentration in Spiritual Leadership, Womanist Theology, and Racial Justice. Welcome.
The Soft Terror Of Being Maybe Possibly Brilliantly Almost Ready To Win
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Happy November Reader! Lately, I’ve been thinking about how sometimes we hold ourselves back from the level of success we’re capable of, not because we’re lazy, unprepared, or unqualified, but because visibility is actually terrifying. The more we are revealed, the more people believe they have the right to engage with us. To comment. To critique. To project. And so much of our modern, online life blurs the lines between familiarity and access. Our parasocial relationships are fascinating in that way—how we speak to and about strangers online in ways we would never approach another human being in person. And so, many of us learn to withhold. To hold back the fullness of who we are. Because revealing ourselves doesn’t only invite love... it also invites judgment. For me, this has been coming up a lot lately.
On Visibility & Self-SabotageFor example -- I’ve had this comedy special written since 2020. If I’m honest, I’ve been afraid of what will happen once I really show up. It’s the same fear that whispers when I think about the inevitable success of Real Soft Girl Shit (Row House, Fall 2026). The same flutter I feel as my voice transforms across platforms, as my Instagram grows (up 8K new followers since September), as my TikTok following expands (1500K+ new lovers this past October), and as my videos reach hundreds of thousands of people (1M+ views across platforms in October alone). But November feels like the month where I stop hiding behind my work and let the work shine through me. Every platform—TikTok, Instagram, Patreon, YouTube—is an altar. And every time I show up, I’m re-dedicating myself to the practice of dreaming, softness, and sovereignty in public. 💭 What’s New
This month, I’m learning that visibility is its own priesthood. I’m practicing what I preach: to be soft enough to stay present, even when it’s uncomfortable, and sovereign enough to keep showing up anyway. Thank you for seeing me. Thank you for staying. What is one thing YOU can do for your softness and vulnerability in the month of November? Send me a reply and let me know. I'd love to offer an Ase&Amen to affirm your journey onward! Radical softness and vulnerability really is a profound tool towards becoming. Actual YOU is a deep exhale we have all been waiting for. With love and softness, |
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We center Black Women and Femmes' liberation, wholeness, and wellness. I am the founder and CEO of The Free People Project and the USA Bestselling Author of “All The Black Girls Are Activists: A Fourth Wave Womanist Pursuit Of Dreams As Radical Resistance.” My Spiritual Mentorship Program, entitled “Dream Yourself Free,” is designed to support Black Women to heal intergenerational wounds and prioritize pleasure. I created Black Girl Mixtape, a platform and safe think space that elevates the intellectual authority of Black Women. I speak from a Hip Hop Womanist perspective. I earned my Bachelors in Cultural Anthropology and Political Science and a Masters of Arts in Social Change with a concentration in Spiritual Leadership, Womanist Theology, and Racial Justice. Welcome.
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